have any of you noticed that today relationships are failing? relationships, whether they're business or personal - friendSHIPS, partnerSHIPS, kinSHIPS, courtSHIPS, marriage-SHIPS (smile!); whatever kind of SHIP it is, those got damn SHIPS are sinking FAST! families are not as close as they once were, siblings are not as close as they once were, husbands and wives are not as close as they once were. everyone seems to have this distance with them, like they're afraid to get too close to people b/c they don't want to be hurt again, or whatever foolishness we come up with. in general, people today are not as close when compared to people 30 and 40 years ago, like in the 60's and 70's. men were different then, women were different, society was different then...
do any of you remember when the entire village raised us instead of MTV and BET, instead of playstation and x-box? do any of you remember when men worked long and hard to support their families, and their women stuck by them no matter what? do any of you remember when their was such a thing as dinner, and the family would gather around, eat, and talk about the days events?
how is the relationSHIP between you and your parents? when is the last time you talked TO them, and when is the last time you talked WITH them? when is the last time you told them that you love them? when is the last time that you kissed them?
how is the relationSHIP between you and your siblings? when is the last time you talked with your brother or sister? do you have any nephews and/or nieces, are you close with them? if not, why? when is the last time that you hugged? when is the last time that you told them that you love them?
we all have a "best" friend. how often do you talk with that best friend? when was the last time you 2 visited each other? how often do you write one another? how often do you call one another?
do any of you remember when people actually sat down and wrote letters? when is the last time you wrote one, and to who? when is the last time you sent out cards, to who? when is the last time that you actually picked up the phone and had a pleasant conversation, and not one of those rushed and noisy cell phone conversations? see, today, we have this thing called the internet, we have email, instant messaging, and e-cards. while all those things have their good uses, have you noticed that we've become impersonal as a society?
one thing that i really hate, and i do mean HATE, is when i see a "friend" signed on to aim or yahoo messenger, and when i send them a message, they never reply! I HATE THAT!! why have people become so impersonal, fake, and shady? if you don't want to be bothered, is it so hard to say so? if you don't want to be bothered, then why are you signed on to a messenger service? yeah, i know many times people are at work, and may actually be busy, but if your busy, why are you signed on? do your damn work!! sometimes we use other peoples computers, and in that event, someone may think that their "friend" is signed on. why is it so hard for people to just say that this isn't so and so?
over the years i've met some really cool people "online", and i've also met some creeps and azzholes. their are some people that i've been communicating with for years, trying to establish a bond, or some type of friendship, something... you know?
one thing i've always had is a word, and that word is my bond. i am not going to say that i'm going to do something knowing that i can't do it, or i'm not going to do it. if i can't handle it, i just can't handle it! if i tell you that i'm going to call you, then i am. if i tell a sista that i'm going to eat her pussy for an hour, then i 'm going to do just that!! (smile!) my word is bond!!
but many or you are very impersonal, cold, and severly moody, and you have the hardest time commiting to anything, and some of you wonder why your relationships fail. sometimes these certain people don't want to chat by pretending to not be there, and then there are times when they chat your damn eyes off. well, i've come to the conclusion that i am going to let certain people go. those moody ones, those impersonal and cold ones... if i've emailed you, and you couldn't/wouldn't take 30 seconds to reply, then i guess it's not for us to be friends. if i've i.m'ed you, and you never seem to reply, then i guess it's not for us to be friends, or whatever you would like to call it. over the next several days, i am going to start deleting, and forgetting certain names and numbers. i am going to start deleting people from the "friends" list on these messenger services, start deleting you from my address book, start deleting names on my links page...
it's nothing personal, just something impersonal!
how are your relationSHIPS?
peace
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